I apologize for being AWOL for a while. Life just gets in the way sometimes!
This past week during chapel, our Athletic Director, Mark DeMichael, spoke about fear. His message really resonated with me.
Fear can be so debilitating for some people. The idea of the unknown is something that can be terrifying. But let me ask you a question. What is something good that ever came out of fear? Are you having a hard time thinking if something? That’s because practically nothing good comes from being fearful. Now let me ask you another question. How many good things come from people trusting God and having faith in His mighty power? I bet you can think of many people throughout your life that this applies to.
When you look at fear in this way, there is really no reason to be fearful! Nothing good ever came out of fear so why would you do it? I know this is not how we normally think and emotions can take a strong hold over our mind, but if we try to think of fear in this way, the “need to fear disappears.
I think fear resides in college students more than almost any other population. There is just so much to be afraid of! Hard exams, relationships, grad school, rejection, interviews, future jobs… the list goes on and on! But I want to let you in on a little secret: fear is not of God. Fear is a tactic that Satan uses to push us farther from God. If you need some more convincing, let’s look at what the Bible has to say about fear.
Isaiah 35:4 – “say to those with fearful hearts, “Be strong, do not fear; your God will come, he will come with vengeance; with divine retribution he will come to save you.”
Joshua 1:9 – “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go.”
Matthew 6:34 – “Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”
Isaiah 43:1 – “But now, this is what the LORD says— he who created you, Jacob, he who formed you, Israel: “Do not fear, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine.”
Psalm 23:4 – “Even though I walk through the darkest valley, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.”
Psalm 27:1 – “The LORD is my light and my salvation— whom shall I fear? The LORD is the stronghold of my life— of whom shall I be afraid?”
What reason do you have to fear now??? Whenever you have something big coming up that makes you fearful, place it in the hands of God and trust in Him. Don’t get so caught up in worrying about when things are going to happen. Acts 1:7 says, “He said to them: ‘It is not for you to know the times or dates the Father has set by his own authority.'”
One of my good friends, Kayleigh, (who also helped co-write on this post) will be sharing her perspective on fear as well!
Fear: The four-letter word that is all too present in all of our lives. Here are 10 fears that can hold us back in life if we are not careful.
1. The fear of rejection.
Getting shot down is terrifying. In today’s culture there are even more ways than ever before to experience rejection. Something as simple as a text message not being responded to can hurt. Rejection comes in the form of being kept in the dark about social events that we were not invited to and being broken up with without being given a reason. Rejection causes self-inflicted harshness than can causes us pain deeper than the event that caused us to feel that way in the first place.
2. The fear of missing out.
“You had to be there.” Most of the times we have heard this said was at social gatherings we did not even know about, much less had the option to attend. Social media makes it harder than ever to enjoy what we are doing when we are doing it with the people we are doing life with because there always seems to be something more exciting going on elsewhere. Let’s be content where we are. The chances are good we chose to be there.
3. The fear of being forgotten.
When asked what people want to accomplish with their lives most respond that they want to make a difference. They want their absence to be felt. Chances are almost 100% that we are all going to die within the next hundred years. Living a life that accomplishes nothing and is not worth remembering is terrifying. Be content in the day to day changes and tell people when they have made a difference in your life.
4. The fear of failure.
Failure is inevitable. I speak with almost 100% certainty that 100% of the people reading this sentence right now are human beings. Fun fact about our species is we make mistakes often. However, what distinguishes a person is how they respond to a failure. Failure is a part of life that shows us how we can learn to do something better the next time, that is if we can muster up the courage to try it again. Change your perception to see failure as a way not to do something and try again.
5. The fear of uncertainty.
It is hard to find someone who can map out our lives for us and answer all of our questions, because no one knows. It sounds tempting to want to know who we are going to marry, where we are going to live, what job we are going to have and what happens when we die. Not knowing these things can cause them to preoccupy our mind for hours of each and every day. Be content with living right now and the answers will come in due time.
6. The fear of being alone.
This goes out to more than just the people that are not in a relationship at the moment. No one is exempt from the feeling of loneliness. Even in a room full of people, one can feel alone. For those of us who reenergize ourselves by spending time alone, it may be hard to commit to that because that does not mean that we are not exempt from this fear. Take care of yourself and love yourself enough to withdraw and reflect.
7. The fear of change.
Moving homes, entering into a new relationship, or starting a new job are all obvious examples of change. But what about the ones that are not so obvious? We fear that those closest to us will change and may not like us or care about us as much as they once did. We may also fear about changing ourselves for the better. Let’s embrace change and learn how to make the best of whatever situation we find ourselves in.
8. The fear of being judged.
Filters. Some of us have them, and most of us don’t. It may be hard to tell a story that may lean toward being embarrassing if we have this fear. Comparison also can play a big role in this fear. As students, we compare our grades and make a judgement about academic ability based on them. We seem to care so much about what other people think of us that we worry about how each person perceives us to be. This fear may keep us from living fully authentic lives.
9. The fear of getting hurt.
It is easy to put ourselves in positions in which the risk is minuscule because it is comfortable and easy. The most extraordinary things in life happen when chances are taken. This includes applying for our dream jobs with little expectation of getting the position or trusting someone enough to be vulnerable with them.
10. The fear of inadequacy.
There seems to be a never enough problem that is steeped in comparison that all of us have experienced at one time or another. No matter how hard we try it is easy to view ourselves as not being good enough, perfect enough, thin enough, powerful enough, successful enough, smart enough, certain enough, or extraordinary enough.
Too many of us live in a constant state of fear. In whatever way that fear manifests itself if your life, it can be debilitating. Identify the fears in your own life and be reminded that you are too unique to let anything get in the way of living your life to its fullest. You won’t regret it.